When Turbo first got sober I really thought our relationship was dead. I kept begging everyone (his sponsor, our therapist, his therapist, etc) how to just get over the past and hurt feelings. Everyone kept telling me it’s not fair what happened to you but focus on the here and now. That response was torture …
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HAPPY NEW YEAR! Turbo here and just like you I was miserable for years. I thought drugs and alcohol were something I needed to keep going in life. I had myself convinced I didn’t have a problem because other people did worse things than I did or other people used/drank more than I did. I …
Fair warning this post contains spoilers of the Neflix show, Maid. We are not affiliated with Netflix and this is only about the show, not the book. Last warning before possible spoilers. Maid is a show on Netflix about a woman named Alex who is trying to flee her abusive, alcoholic significant other, Sean. Alex …
We hope you have a wonderful Christmas holiday. If you are struggling with your sobriety today reach out to your support system or go to a meeting. If you want to change your life for the better reach out for help. Sobriety is an amazing gift for yourself and the people who love you. Love, …
I do not ever think anyone but an addict fully understands the disease of addiction but as a spouse of an addict there’s a lot I have learned. Turbo runs in circles of sober people and has had to cut people out of his life to keep himself sober. I think sometimes this makes recovery/sobriety …
The holiday season is hard when dealing with an addict. If the addict is in active addiction they can cause turmoil, stress, and ruin a nice holiday (that’s a post for another day). If the addict is in recovery then I have noticed it can cause some stress. If their drug of choice was alcohol …
Rock bottom is a subjective term. When people hear it most think of an addict on the streets or someone who has just been revived after an overdose. One of the many things in sobriety I have learned is that rock bottom is different to everyone. I want to make clear before I share my …
This is a hard post for me to write. Looking back I realize how toxic of a living situation I was in and how toxic of a situation our children were exposed to during Turbo’s active addiction. I am just so thankful we have moved on from this time in our lives. To be blunt …
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My real addiction started in my early teens but I didn’t know I was an addict until I was with Coco. I grew up around drunks and I thought that was normal. My mom, dad, grandfather, uncles, aunts, etc all drank daily and I normalized that because in my mind that’s what adults did everyday. …
I married an addict but I am not embarrassed or ashamed about it. My story with Turbo started around 2009 when he added me on a social media app. We chatted a lot about life but never thought about anything romantic. We chatted on and off as friends for years and even though only about …